Thursday, December 29, 2005
AWWWWWWWW! maybe i'll use this as my profile image. look at those curls (before they became frizzy, annoying and unruly)!! i always thought that h looked 100% like his dad, but looking at this i can see his pointed little chin and his little bunny teeth. well, since he lost his baby teeth and the big ones are growing in (crooked) not so much.
anyhow, just thought i'd share.
Tuesday, December 27, 2005
okay, here are my favorite christmas pictures of each of my children, male, feamle, and canine. the one of jane is with her look-alike, s made it at build-a-bear with her christmas money from great-grandma & grandpa. she also loves their website and plays the little interactive games. h's picture is just pure reaction... he had such fun opening presents. s's picture is when she didn't WANT me to take her picture, and the look is pure teenager. a special thanks to lotusflower for the precious dress she is wearing.
we've had a relaxing few days with little event. lots of game and toy playing; all the kids are outside now playing king kong. i'm sure h has taken the title role, casting jane as a t-rex and s as ann darrow. she does a mean imitation of fay wray, let me tell ya. a wee bit dramatic, our daughter, and i have NO IDEA where she gets it. really.
Saturday, December 24, 2005
ari leaves tomorrow for the beach to be with his beloved, but maybe he'll come back to stay with us before heading back to the great white north. company like this is always a welcome distraction! especially in the hectic days before christmas. i have a full-on feast to cook before tonight... and i'm really not complaining. after cooking low-carb for t for so long, mashing potatoes will be a pleasure. our friends the caplans (with 3 kids) are coming over, and i'm hoping for a really warm and nice christmas eve dinner.
oh! and i finally figured out what to get t for his birthday. i'm so excited! i really hope he likes it, we'll have to have a party when he gets back from l.a. if i haven't mentioned it, he's leaving january 1 for a few days of work on preproduction for a new film. i'll keep y'all posted.
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
twas the week before christmas, and if we WERE in the house, only jane would be stirring, since we're all too busy doing other things elsewhere. the kids both have nutcracker dance camp all week and they're having a ball! i'm getting last minute gifts and food for the feast. also, i went to the gym and had a nice leisurely lounge in the steam room after my workout. ahhh.... how i miss those steamy summer days. i am so cold blooded that even southern winters are too bitter for me. pathetically, i have an electric throw blanket on the sofa for watching tv at night.
i told the kids i'd give 'em each a quarter for every time they ran around the house (with the dog). after a half an hour, i'm looking out at their flagging energy and wondering how they lasted so long. i'm gonna have to cough up a mint. maybe they'll sleep well and have visions of sugarplums. highly unlikely given that they have no idea what a sugarplum is. s keeps having grinch nightmares. i try to tell her that the grinch is good now, but if you go to the email santa website, the return letters to both my kids said that the grinch is stealing mrs claus' cookies. this fueled s's worry that the grinch is INDEED still bad. thanks alot, email santa.com.
Saturday, December 17, 2005
okay, i just thought she was cute asleep by the fire. after the dryer incident last night, we inexplicably lost power for several hours. welcome to the country! we had candles and fires burning, and while it's a great adventure for the kids, it's a bit tiresome for the adults. especially as we had already fed them, but were waiting to make dinner for ourselves until after bedtime. it was cold cuts and jell-o instead of steaks. bummer.
Friday, December 16, 2005
note to self: wear a mask next time you try this. or hire a professional.
i heaved the dryer out of its miniscule upstairs hall closet (i hate this fact enough to dedicate a whole post to just it) and was confronted with 4 years of... stuff. lint, fuzz, money, hair ties, rocks, papers, ribbons, you name it. so much stuff, but nothing really exciting. (i'm not sure why i was expecting a jackpot, but after all that heaving, i had high hopes!) anyhow, i had to squeeze out to get the dustapn and a screwdriver to remove the tube from the dryer as well as the wall. by the time i got back up, the children had made a, well, a prison for themselves in the bathroom that was being blocked by the dryer. i carefully eased my way back in behind (whew!) and swept up the dust, cleaned out the vent, and replaced all the parts. i was already sneezing and hacking (still am) but felt it was a job well done. or well ALMOST done. i still had to push the sucker back! it was lots harder than it looked, and after cursing, sweating, and breaking my back....TA DA!!!! i did it.
just another day in the life of a working housewife.
and the children were so disappointed that i wrecked their fortress. alas, sometimes you are the only one to pat yourself on the back for a crappy job well done.
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
before this season is over, the needles will be in our clothes, and settled in every toy under the tree. next year i think i'll get a fake.
Monday, December 12, 2005
Saturday, December 10, 2005
i even let them sleep in a little, even though we need to get up and moving on saturday morning in order to make it to dance by 9 am. the morning started well enough; we managed to get out the door and to s's dance class in time, but then the proverbial poop hit the fan. my lovely son was replaced by demon boy. he dawdles, he mopes, he resists, he cries, and he's WAY too old for all of it. after s's class and before h's class (a one hour layover) i made the mistake of going to the mall. when this did not go particularly well, i was already in a foul mood, but then i asked him to buckle his seat belt.
i got very angry at this point, turned around to buckle him myself, slammed my head into the tv (it comes out of the car ceiling) and then i was REALLY mad.
then we got to class.
he didn't want to do it.
gosh darn it, if i'm going to blow the entirety of saturday driving up there and killing time for almost 5 hours, not to mention the quantity of money it costs for the class, the gas, the drive-thru lunch, HE'S GOING TO CLASS. i made him at least sit and watch today, but if he pulls this garbage one more time, he's done for the rest of the year. i hate to threaten, but i don't know what else to do. one thing i know for certain...
there's no more family fun past eight o'clock at night.
Friday, December 09, 2005
we only got halfway through the magic kingdom due to crowds and time constraints. good thing we'll be back in may to finish the job! we had to be back to the hotel by 6pm so the kids could hang at simba's cubhouse and mom & dad could have some adult time. we chose the resort restaurant jiko-- with african inspired food-- for dinner. it was lovely! ok, at the magic kingdom we loved everything: pirates of the caribbean, haunted mansion, thunder mtn railroad, small world. can't wait to get back, hopefully not shoulder to shoulder next time.
ahh, the photo will get here as soon as i load it from the camera. i'm like one of those silly commercials with the kid saying 'mom i've been in your camera for 6 months, can you print me out now?' but not really. so alas, until i load, you'll have to deal with a visual description. the lovely folks at chapel hill comics, andy and vanessa, hatched the brilliant plan to host an art show for childrens art. highly inspired, and it was so cool to see the young artists at the opening. h entered 2 pieces and s entered one. the kids could have them for sale (name their own price even!) but ours decided not to sell. h, however, with his keen eye for art, chose to purchase a piece from a budding 6 year old artist named sadie zimet entitled 'evil'. he spent $13 of his hard earned allowance on it, and he won't even get to see it until the show comes down in a month. again, i will be sure to post a photo of 'evil', it's just fantastic.
who's clamoring for more disney photos?? i know, NOBODY!! well, i'm posting them anyway. and you'll have to just wait for pics from the art show, unless the lovely lady vanessa has beat me to it and put the up on the comic shop site. check it out!
Tuesday, December 06, 2005
i have a second to write early this am because of dog, cats and children keeping me awake. i'm thinking of installing a padlock on the door! then the dog would be sure to tear at the carpet outside our door and do more damage than she's already done. linoleum, anyone??
took the kids to see the nutcracker on sunday. it was a lovely and highly professional student performance by the lovely dancers at tyb. even the kids seemed to like it, only got a little fidgety toward the end of the sugar plum fairy dance. i sat rapt with awe at the grace and strength of these young people. i know what blood, sweat and tears it takes to dance (and i suck at it)!
anybody want more disney photos?? well, of course you do. and, if not, here they are anyway. these are of disney/mgm studios. it was a little crowded the day we were there, and we stayed WAY too late for the children to see the water/light/fireworks show, fantasmic. highlights were the indiana jones stunt spectacular and the insanely scary tower of terror. we have scarred our children for life by taking them on that ride, but when asked, they'll say it was their favorite part. for those uninformed, it is an elevator ride that drops out from under you at random intervals. terrifying, truly.
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
this park was less crowded, more relaxing, and the most superbly art directed of the parks. strolling through africa and dancing with an african troupe were highlights. the kids loved the dinosaur ride, but s was terrified by the bugs' life movie in the tree of life.
where to start? and where to end?
what a whirlwind of a week. what a busy vacation. in a nutshell, i don't think we've ever been as busy or as relaxed, and none of us wanted to come home.
disney is no longer a theme park, it's an experience. not just rides, but cultures, art, learning, exploring. we all took something different away from it.
the animal kingdom lodge where we stayed is phenomenal. the lobby, restaurants, pool, art direction (african) are unparalleled. the rooms leave something to be desired. small and un-kid-friendly. the best thing about the room was the balcony which overlooked a savanna filled with african animals.
the smartest thing we did? buy two mugs for $12 each at the snack bar that could be refilled with beverage of choice for the rest of the stay. hot coffee in the morning! soda for the kids! hot coffee in the afternoon! hot coffee in the evening! wahoo! and luckily there wa a fridge in the room so we saved $$ on food, too.
there was a great playground for the kids, too, and 'simba's cubhouse' where you can leave your kids for $10 an hour. totally worth it. all around are safari animals, waterfalls, hot tubs, etc.
Friday, November 11, 2005
once i got the lion's share of the cleaning done, t and h went to get our friend joel (from london) at the airport. things calmed considerably, and i was able to squeeze in a shower and a walk. s wanted to sit in the stroller (at nearly 4 1/2 she's WAY too old) and i relented as it gives me a better workout. jane has been a much happier dog the rest of the day.
i took out a turkey breast to thaw this morning, planning on a pseudo-thanksgiving. t is on a low-carb diet, so all he would be able to eat is turkey. when he came back with joel, he informed me that joel is a vegetarian. ah, the best laid plans. one is all meat, the other is no meat. i can't win. they inform me that they're going out tonight anyways. c'est la vie, and i don't have to cook after a long long day of cleaning and fighting children. wahoooo!
after spongebob the kids are going straight to bed and i'm going to soak in a hot hot hot tub and read a book with a big cold glass of chardonnay by my side. now doesn't THAT sound nice???
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
I’m trying blogger for word today in the hopes that it is more accessible than online blogger. Maybe I will write more if I can publish more easily, and LOOK! It’s capitalizing all of my bad lowercase typing. Does that take any of the ambiance away from my work? Also I’ll bet I can do a word count on each and every post and know how many words I write, say, per YEAR. I’m trying, really, I’m trying, to write more. That pesky old thing called life just keeps getting in the way. Have you ever noticed that too much living gets in the way of life? By that I mean, you spend all week running and running, doing a million gazillion things, both tedious and fun, but in a month you sit back and think… ‘what did I do last month? Where did the time go…?’ and it totally escapes you.
Okay, I need to do a quick note on Halloween as I am a parent to two small children and Halloween happens to be one of their two favorite days of the year. (now i'm back on regular old blogger. can you tell?) first, both kids had halloween parties at school last week. on saturday, dance class was halloween themed, and they could dance in costume. Sunday was long-overdue cleaning day, and t took the kids to target so I could toil all day at home. It was worth it… a weight was lifted from my shoulders.
Monday, Halloween, was also a teacher workday. Since the house was sparkly and the laundry was done, I decided to take the kids on an adventure. The paint-it-yourself pottery place was closed, so we went to the planetarium. Neither one of my kids had ever been before, so it was a brand new experience for them. h though it magical, s was a little fidgety. we walked around campus after that, and took time to eat pizza, then ben and jerry's. forgot to mention that in the spirit of halloween i had a blue wig with cat ears on. all day. there is a photo of me (and the kids) on www.chapelhillcomics.com from our stop there on the way home.
the kids got in their costumes after dinner... batman begins and the cat princess. they went on a hay ride first around the neighborhood and gathered some goodies door-to-door. then the neighborhood had a gathering at the community area with a bonfire and hot cocoa with s'mores. it was dark, confusing and smoky, but the kids were elated.
now the candy sits, uneaten, on the kitchen counter.... staring me in the face every time i walk by. 'resistance is futile!' screams the chocolate.
the rest of the week is a blur now, as i'm writing this on veteran's day. shows how far behind i am.
Thursday, October 27, 2005
i went out to dinner last night with four lovely ladies, and had to heed my own advice. slow down. listen to the stories of others. ask questions, understand. it's so easy in conversation to jump on the last few words of another's sentence. slow down, girl!
it just seems like we've been going and going and going. with the remodeling, the housework, the puppy, and the deadlines at home. with the pta meetings, the homework, the parties, the fundraisers, and the volunteering at school. with the birthdays, the appointments, the gym, the shopping and the playdates out and about. we need to slow the heck down! i sat and held my big baby girl this morning and watched a tv show with her, and just felt her warmth and kissed her head. i almost cried with the relief (after getting up hours earlier, running around to get h ready for school, cleaning up, etc.). i noticed for the first time that my daughter's hands look just like her dad's. when did i miss that?
i just need to slow down. i'm starting today. i'm doing crafts with my daughter. i'm going to h's halloween party at school. i'm cancelling half the crap i'm supposed to do in the next few weeks. i'm spending so much time living life and doing all the things i'm supposed to do that i've forgotten to enjoy it. just for today i'll try not to overachieve.
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
about a week ago when my parents were still here, we noticed that the septic tank was overflowing into the yard. that's NOT good. the pump was running, so dad the useful thought quickly and shut it off at the breaker. a DAY later, at 8 pm, the guy showed up to "fix" it in the dark. turns out there was a rock in the impeller so it couldn't pump the s*!t out into the drainage field. the septic guy and dad tried to remedy the situation in the pitch black, but it wasn't easy. they settled with dropping a used pump down in so that we could at least use the toilet and shower. since then, we haven't heard back. i was just wondering what to do about the whole situation when the county septic inspector showed up. she told me all i never wanted to know about s*!t and it's disposal, all in the wonderful aroma of the stuff itself. she promised to call the septic guy and pressure him for answers.
what a life.
Sunday, October 09, 2005
as soon as my browser stops giving me massive amounts of annoying trouble with blogger, i'll post on this topic. promise.
YAY! i am back in business for a few minutes.
today was the last day of the grassroots festival and since it wasn't raining and our friends were playing, we decided to take the kids and frolic in the mud.
the never played at noon, so we skidded our way through the muddy parking lot in the trusty minivan to get there in time. usually my policy for sunday is that i go nowhere, see noone and do nothing. it's therapeutic. but this is a very special occasion, as the never are our wonderful friends. they did a short set today, since ari is away at college in boston. noah, joah and johnny are still regrouping as a three-man band, and doing quite well in such a short time. our kids are the littlest groupies, and even had on their tie-dyes to fit in with the hippies dancing about the stage.
in between shows we went to the food court. the kids shared a bbq chicken skewer, while i had chicken curry and veggie korma. tommy had an amazing falafel sandwich. i swear, that festival is worth it just for the food. to top it all off, we had homemade ice cream on still warm waffle cones. mmmmm!
we wandered over to the stage where woodwork roadshow was playing. noah(from the never)'s brother jones is a chip off the old block, and plays the double bass for this incredibly talented bluegrass band based out of wilmington, nc. i say he's a chip off the old block because their dad, snuffy, has played for many years with a band called the bluegrass experience. they played on saturday, but we unfortunately had to miss them. the kids played and danced, but s was having a "hurt" day, where no matter what she did, she kept getting hurt.
after frozen pizza and a big huge bubble bath, the kids are still going strong, so i'd better try to calm them enough for bed.
Saturday, October 08, 2005
yesterday for lunch, t and i went to allen and son pit cooked bar-be-que, one of our favorite takeout places since the dawn of our move here almost ten years ago. however, we had never 'eaten in' at the 'dining room.' now, most folks in this country wouldn't even consider setiing foot in the joint. maybe folks in other countries wouldn't either, i don't know. but i digress. we walk into this dingy, low-ceilinged room with a sticky screen door that slapped shut after we walked in, and sat down under fluorescent lights at a red-and-white checkered plastic tableclothed (is that a word?? tableclothed??) table. i am instantly transfixed by the psychedelic effect of the lights and the checkers together, and momentarily am able to drown out the curious stares of the locals and daily customers. we ordered our usual-- barbecue plates (oh, pardon, bar-be-que plates) and sat back sipping our tea to wait. now this 'cue isn't the regular smoky red flavored 'cue. it's the eastern north carolina kind, which is pulled pork with a vinegar and red pepper flavor. it's close to heaven for a displaced mid-westerner by way of los angeles.
the people who came in after us get served, and we are still twiddling our thumbs, especially since we need to pick up s at preschool soon. turns out it was OUR food that was delivered to the nice folks at the next table, as they come over bearing the cafeteria-style compartmented food plates that belong to us. "d'dj'all order these here plates?" they asked (that's southern for did you all order these plates). why yes, we replied, and they set the food down in front of us. now, in most parts of the country (and possibly the world), this might be a faux pas. no one in their right mind would actually consider EATING the food that was delivered to another's table first. well, here in the south, particularly at allen and son pit cooked bar-be-que, we did. we not only considered it, we did it.
and that's the way things are here in the south.
Sunday, October 02, 2005
especially since i have my twice-yearly allergy headache. i've decided to fight this time-- with drugs-- but so far it looks to be futile. i'm still just as dizzy, nauseated and blinded by the pressure, no matter how many clarinex, nasonex, allegra or whatever i take. i'm just not a big fan of drugs, and this dilemma is supporting my theory.
t is in boston, hanging out with the blvd guys at the comic convention. on friday, the feature article about t was printed on the front page of the "life" section of the n & o. it was exciting, and fun. i want to share it with the world, but i'd be afraid to look like i'm bragging. i can't help it! my big boy is so talented. at least dr. k saw it and commented on her "famous" patient when i saw her friday for my parasthesias recheck. oh, and on that topic, i'm going for an mri in a few weeks to rule out brain/ nerve causes. i'm sure it'll come back totally fine, leaving us to scratch our heads as to why my hands and feet continue to tingle.
maybe i'll try going back to sleep now. after all, it is sunday, the only day i can "sleep in." whatever that phrase means when you have 2 kids and a dog! at least the sun is not shining directly into my eyes thanks to the lovely curtains made possible by my lovely parents.
Thursday, September 22, 2005
so here is an exceprt from h's 6 "ishu" godzilla comic mini-series. this particular subplot involves godzilla's experimentation with wine. when i first saw this, i was on the FLOOR laughing. now, we know that he couldn't possibly be making a subconscious reference to his mother's 1 glass a night habit, don't we?
now, he wants to write a book about alexander the great and his horse, bucephalus. we'll see what insights into alexander's life a 6 year old will bring us. i don't think we'll be having him watch the recent colin farrell biopic for inspiration, either.
the kid is so excited about this weekend's retrofantasma festival of horror films at the carolina theater in durham. they're showing 'the monster squad' and he couldn't stop talking about that movie for DAYS after noah loaned it to us. i can't remember the other film they're showing, but any out-past-midnight evening for a 6 year old is very very exciting.
Sunday, September 18, 2005
i just wrote an entire post then lost it due to internet malfunction. this time i'll hit 'save' a few times before i post.
last night i was wondering where my daughter could possibly be, for she had been quiet far too long. if you are a parent, you know that this can be a very dangerous (or at least messy) situation. i found her at the kitchen counter, her new favorite place to play with the dangers of puppy teeth elsewhere. she had her 'littlest pet shop' toys all set up around her. now, if you've never seen these things, they are tiny bobble-head creatures and they are hideously ugly. the designers must have been attempting the 'they're so ugly they're cute' look, something like a cabbage patch kid. in my estimation, they failed miserably, because these things are just downright ugly. anyhow, my daughter must have been channeling christo, for she had mummified all of her pets in scotch tape. i was so baffled, i took a picture. what would a psychoanalyst say? probably that she's either a freak of that she's going to be a sort of process or performance artist. personally, after listening to her sing ALL the way through target yesterday, i think she'll be an opera singer. i was cracking up the whole time, but other customers didn't find her projecting her vibrato to be amusing. don't we always think our kids are funnier than other people do? anyhow, when we got home i played her 'opera singer' by cake-- one of my favorites-- but she was unimpressed. if it's not the soundtrack from 'annie' right now, just forget it.
tomorrow i'll ramble on the warped mind of my son.
Tuesday, September 06, 2005
saturday was another no-dance day thank goodness. we're back to the studio next week, and while the kids are excited, i'm not looking forward to over 3 hours of waiting. we celebrated the last day of saturday freedom with a water party, even though h is still feeling crappy. i filled the baby pool, the slip-n-slide, and some water balloons. i turned on the bubble machine and the kidz bop (ugh) and we licked bomb-pops and enjoyed the lazy day. that is, after the trip to walmart (ugh again).
sunday was catch-up-on-housekeeping day since i no longer have barb to take care of me. i did run into her and her daughters at walmart, though. they're splitting their time between richmond and here for a year. i can't imagine how tough that will be, but i know their roots are here, and it's hard to just up and leave.
labor day was just relaxing. we had an invite to go eat ice cream with the sanfilippo/vanfleet clan, but i didn't think h's runny nose would go over well with anyone. we stayed home again, which causes my brain to go ch-ching! when i think of how much gas $ we're saving. gas was $3.19 at the pump on sat, and there was a $50 limit. this is now a post-katrina world. what a mess, naturally, emotionally, politically. i wish we could do more than just give $ to the red cross.
today i sent h to school so he would not be counted absent even though i need to pick him up for a dental appt at 10:30. i won't take him back... it's too much more fun to play hooky. i though maybe the unusually hellish chuck-e-cheese's might be just the post-dentist ticket. he's already sick (c-e-c's is notorious for germs) and there won't be many school-agers there. i have to steel myself for the possibility. true grit, i'm tellin' ya.
Saturday, September 03, 2005
the fun on thursday came when h got off the bus crabby, tired, and getting sick with a cold. ALREADY! seems it's going around like wildfire. so while t was still working in the studio on the new ea project, i put the crying and whining boy-child in bed at 7 pm. then proceeded to put s and myself in bed not long after. i let h sleep in before school yesterday am, which he probably needed. now, maybe he can recuperate from this itty bitty cold over the labor day weekend.
all this put me behind yesterday, which is always frustrating but a little nice. no race to the bus, race to pre-k, race to the gym and home to help t. helps me relax to just let cosmic forces sweep me along, nothing much i can do about it. so not much was accomplished before h got off the bus with his lovely girlfriend morgyn. man, those kids are 2 peas in a pod. it slays me. no wonder they're in love! but, according to h's diary, they will not kiss until college. so i have no worries. ah, young love! isn't it grand.
t went out with noah last night, i'm still not quite sure what they did (other than go to best buy for christy's birthday present) because t's still not out of bed. piglets and i walked jane around the block, thus de-energizing the lot of them. i let them watch tv kind-of late 'cause they were being so darn good.
Thursday, September 01, 2005
jane is having tons of accidents, i really need to buckle down on the potty training. hah! i'll do it in my *free* time. she's so so so sweet, though, and is so happy to see each one of us every day. she even ate some of my seaweed salad yesterday, and i was so impressed. a little sushi girl, after my own heart.
so i ended up at the doctor's office on tuesday with parasthesias, the technical term for tingling in the hands and feet. we're trying to get to the bottom of it (i'm sure the diagnosis will be that i'm insane) but it sure is annoying.
time to go snuggle with my girls and watch tom & jerry with a steaming cup of fresh coffee.
Saturday, August 27, 2005
okay, so here she is. the child that i am (thankfully) not genetically responsible for. the all-american girl, born on the fourth of july, jane mary. isn't she cute? i can ask this without bias since she is not biologically mine. you can't ask anyone the same thing of your natural children or they will think you're insane. her favorite thing (so far) is a red yarn pom-pom. she loves kids, and took her first leashed walk yesterday. really i should call it a drag. very comical-- wish h had his video camera running. if it had been on, h would have titled the movie "janezilla 7: attack of leashota" or something equally as h-ish. no dance class today or next week, then we are back at the studio for the entirety of saturday morning. there's enough going on right now without dragging up to town first thing in the morning on saturday. i'm thankful today for being able to chill out! well, if cleaning puppy puddles is chilling.
Thursday, August 25, 2005
for doing next to nothing all day, i was exhausted and napped since t FINALLY is done with the deadline from hell and can hang out with us some more. he is at a tool show at the pbo fairgrounds with h right now.
s and i are going to read bruno the carpenter.
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